The Kama Sutra: Part III Chapter I
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CHAPTER I
ON MARRIAGEWHEN
a girl of the same caste, and a virgin, is married in accordance with the
precepts of Holy Writ, the results of such a union are the acquisition of Dharma
and Artha, offspring, affinity, increase of friends, and untarnished love. For
this reason a man should fix his affections upon a girl who is of good family,
whose parents are alive, and who is three years or more younger than himself.
She should be born of a highly respectable family, possessed of wealth, well
connected, and with many relations and friends. She should also be beautiful, of
a good disposition, with lucky marks on her body, and with good hair, nails,
teeth, ears, eyes and breasts, neither more nor less than they ought to be, and
no one of them entirely wanting, and not troubled with a sickly body. The man
should, of course, also possess these qualities himself. But at all events, says
Ghotakamukha, a girl who has been already joined with others (i.e. no longer a
maiden) should never be loved, for it would be reproachable to do such a thing.
Now in order to bring about a marriage with such a girl
as described above, thee parents and relations of the man should exert
themselves, as also such friends on both sides as may be desired to assist in
the matter. These friends should bring to the notice of the girl's parents, the
faults, both present and future, of all the other men that may wish to marry
her, and should at the same time extol even to exaggeration all the
excellencies, ancestral, and paternal, of their friend, so as to endear him to
them, and particularly to those that may be liked by the girl's mother. One of
the friends should also disguise himself as an astrologer, and declare the
future good fortune and wealth of his friend by showing the existence of all the
lucky omens1
and signs,2
the good influence of planets, the auspicious entrance of the sun into a sign of
the Zodiac, propitious stars and fortunate marks on his body. Others again
should rouse the jealousy of the girl's mother by telling her that their friend
has a chance of getting from some other quarter even a better girl than hers.
A girl should be taken as a wife, as also given in
marriage, when fortune, signs, omens, and the words3
of others are favourable, for, says Ghotakamukha, a man should not marry at any
time he likes. A girl who is asleep, crying, or gone out of the house when
sought in marriage, or who is betrothed to another, should not be married. The
following also should be avoided:
One who is kept concealed
One who has an ill-sounding name
One who has her nose depressed
One who has her nostril turned up
One who is formed like a male
One who is bent down
One who has crooked thighs
One who has a projecting forehead
One who has a bald head
One who does not like purity
One who has been polluted by another
One who is affected with the Gulma4
One who is disfigured in any way
One who has fully arrived at puberty
One who is a friend
One who is a younger sister
One who is a Varshakari5
In the same way a girl who is called by the name of one of the
twenty-seven stars, or by the name of a tree, or of a river, is considered
worthless, as also a girl whose name ends in `r' or `l'. But some authors say
that prosperity is gained only by marrying that girl to whom one becomes
attached, and that therefore no other girl but the one who is loved should be
married by anyone.
When a girl becomes marriageable her parents should dress
her smartly, and should place her where she can be easily seen by all. Every
afternoon, having dressed her and decorated her in a becoming manner, they
should send her with her female companions to sports, sacrifices, and marriage
ceremonies, and thus show her to advantage in society, because she is a kind of
merchandise. They should also receive with kind words and signs of friendliness
those of an auspicious appearance who may come accompanied by their friends and
relations for the purpose of marrying their daughter, and under some pretext or
other having first dressed her becomingly, should then present her to them.
After this they should await the pleasure of fortune, and with this object
should appoint a future day on which a determination could be come to with
regard to their daughter's marriage. On this occasion when the persons have
come, the parents of the girl should ask them to bathe and dine, and should say,
`Everything will take place at the proper time', and should not then comply with
the request, but should settle the matter later.
When a girl is thus acquired, either according to the
custom of the country, or according to his own desire, the man should marry her
in accordance with the precepts of the Holy Writ, according to one of the four
kinds of marriage.
Thus ends marriage.
There are also some verses on the subject as follows:
`Amusement in society, such as completing verses begun by
others, marriages, and auspicious ceremonies should be carried on neither with
superiors, nor inferiors, but with our equals. That should be known as a high
connection when a man, after marrying a girl, has to serve her and her relations
afterwards like a servant, and such a connection is censured by the good. On the
other hand, that reproachable connection, where a man, together with his
relations, lords it over his wife, is called a low connection by the wise. But
when both the man and the woman afford mutual pleasure to each other, and when
the relatives on both sides pay respect to one another, such is called a
connection in the proper sense of the word. Therefore a man should contract
neither a high connection by which he is obliged to bow down afterwards to his
kinsmen, nor a low connection, which is universally reprehended by all.'
Footnotes
1
The flight of a blue jay on a person's left side is considered a lucky
omen when one starts on any business; the appearance of a cat before anyone at
such a time is looked on as a bad omen. There are many omens of the same kind.
2
Such as the throbbing of the right eye of men and the left eye of women,
etc.
3
Before anything is begun it is a custom to go early in the morning to a
neighbour's house, and overhear the first words that may be spoken in his
family, and according as the words heard are of good or bad import, to draw an
inference as to the success or failure of the undertaking.
4
A disease consisting of any glandular enlargement in any part of the body.
5
A woman, the palms of whose hands and the soles of whose feet are always
perspiring.
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