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CHAPTER II
OF CREATING CONFIDENCE IN THE GIRLFOR
the first three days after marriage, the girl and her husband should sleep on
the floor, abstain from sexual pleasures, and eat their food without seasoning
it either with alkali or salt. For the next seven days they should bathe amidst
tire sounds of auspicious musical instruments, should decorate themselves, dine
together, and pay attention to their relations as well as to those who may have
come to witness their marriage. This is applicable to persons of all castes. On
the night of the tenth day the man should begin in a lonely place with soft
words, and thus create confidence in the girl. Some authors say that for the
purpose of winning her over he should not speak to her for three days, but the
followers of Babhravya are of opinion that if the man does not speak with her
for three days, the girl may be discouraged by seeing him spiritless like a
pillar, and, becoming dejected, she may begin to despise him as a eunuch.
Vatsyayana says that the man should begin to win her over, and to create
confidence in her, but should abstain at first from sexual pleasures. Women,
being of a tender nature, want tender beginnings, and when they are forcibly
approached by men with whom they are but slightly acquainted, they sometimes
suddenly become haters of sexual connection, and sometimes even haters of the
male sex. The man should therefore approach the girl according to her liking,
and should make use of those devices by which he may be able to establish
himself more and more into her confidence. These devices are as follows:
He should embrace her first of all in a way she likes
most, because it does not last for a long time.
He should embrace her with the upper part of his body
because that is easier and simpler. If the girl is grown up, or if the man has
known her for some time, he may embrace her by the light of a lamp, but if he is
not well acquainted with her, or if she is a young girl, he should then embrace
her in darkness.
When the girl accepts the embrace, the man should put a
tambula or screw of betel nut and betel leaves in her mouth, and if she will not
take it, he should induce her to do so by conciliatory words, entreaties, oaths,
and kneeling at her feet, for it is a universal rule that however bashful or
angry a woman may be she never disregards a man's kneeling at her feet. At the
time of giving this tambula he should kiss her mouth softly and gracefully
without making any sound. When she is gained over in this respect he should then
make her talk, and so that she may be induced to talk he should ask her
questions about things of which he knows or pretends to know nothing, and which
can be answered in a few words. If she does not speak to him, he should not
frighten her, but should ask her the same thing again and again in a
conciliatory manner. If she does not then speak he should urge her to give a
reply because, as Ghotakamukha says, `all girls hear everything said to them by
men, but do not themselves sometimes say a single word'. When she is thus
importuned, the girl should give replies by shakes of the head, but if she has
quarrelled with the man she should not even do that. When she is asked by the
man whether she wishes for him, and whether she likes him, she should remain
silent for a long time, and when at last importuned to reply, should give him a
favourable answer by a nod of her head. If the man is previously acquainted with
the girl he should converse with her by means of a female friend, who may be
favourable to him, and in the confidence of both, and carry on the conversation
on both sides. On such an occasion the girl should smile with her head bent
down, and if the female friend say more on her part than she was desired to do,
she should chide her and dispute with her. The female friend should say in jest
even what she is not desired to say by the girl, and add, `she says so', on
which the girl should say indistinctly and prettily, `O no! I did not say so',
and she should then smile and throw an occasional glance towards the man.
If the girl is familiar with the man, she should place
near him, without saying anything, the tambula, the ointment, or the garland
that he may have asked for, or she may tie them up in his upper garment. While
she is engaged in this, the man should touch her young breasts in the sounding
way of pressing with the nails, and if she prevents him doing this he should say
to her, ` I will not do it again if you will embrace me', and should in this way
cause her to embrace him. While he is being embraced by her he should pass his
hand repeatedly over and about her body. By and by he should place her in his
lap, and try more and more to gain her consent, and if she will not yield to him
he should frighten her by saying `I shall impress marks of my teeth and nails on
your lips and breasts, and then make similar marks on my own body, and shall
tell my friends that you did them. What will you say then?' In this and other
ways, as fear and confidence are created in the minds of children, so should the
man gain her over to his wishes.
On the second and third nights, after her confidence has
increased still more, he should feel the whole of her body with his hands, and
kiss her all over; he should also place his hands upon her thighs and shampoo
them, and if he succeed in this he should then shampoo the joints of her thighs.
If she tries to prevent him doing this he should say to her, `What harm is there
in doing it?' and should persuade her to let him do it. After gaining this point
he should touch her private parts, should loosen her girdle and the knot of her
dress, and turning up her lower garment should shampoo the joints of her naked
thighs. Under various pretences he should do all these things, but he should not
at that time begin actual congress. After this he should teach her the
sixty-four arts, should tell her how much he loves her, and describe to her the
hopes which he formerly entertained regarding her. He should also promise to be
faithful to her in future, and should dispel all her fears with respect to rival
women, and, at last, after having overcome her bashfulness, he should begin to
enjoy her in a way so as not to frighten her. So much about creating confidence
in the girl; and there are, moreover, some verses on the subject as follows:
`A man acting according to the inclinations of a girl
should try to gain her over so that she may love him and place her confidence in
him. A man does not succeed either by implicitly following the inclination of a
girl, or by wholly opposing her, and he should therefore adopt a middle course.
He who knows how to make himself beloved by women, as well as to increase their
honour and create confidence in them, this man becomes an object of their love.
But he who neglects a girl, thinking she is too bashful, is despised by her as a
beast ignorant of the working of the female mind. Moreover, a girl forcibly
enjoyed by one who does not understand the hearts of girls becomes nervous,
uneasy, and dejected, and suddenly begins to hate the man who has taken
advantage of her; and then, when her love is not understood or returned, she
sinks into despondency, and becomes either a hater of mankind altogether, or,
hating her own man, she has recourse to other men.'1
Footnotes
1
These last few lines have been exemplified in many ways in many novels of
this century.
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